Work/life balance get’s a lot of attention. The problem with balancing is that it requires external circumstances to remain equal and even. This is virtually impossible in a world that is filled with stimulation overload. I encourage you to let go of balancing, juggling and managing. Try embracing the concept of being psychologically flexible.
Psychological flexibility means choosing to act on long term values rather than short term impulses, thoughts and feelings. We have little control over them and they tend to ebb and flow – sometimes dramatically. If we trust our thoughts and emotions and act based on them, we can often overlook the more important, actions and decisions which would bring true meaning, vitality and richness to our lives.When you live your life according to your values rather than your inbox you can make decisions effortlessly and live a life that is centered instead of scattered.
What will it take for you to define this day, month, year as successful?
It can be easy to focus on these external markers of success or failure. But what about your internal yard stick? How much were you the person you wanted to be? How often were you mindful or generous or brave or loving or … (insert your own values here).
‘Values are your heart’s deepest desires for how you want to behave as a human being. Values are not about what you want to get or achieve; they are about how you want to behave or act on an ongoing basis.” Russ Harris – The Happiness Trap.